Your wedding day is here, and as is to be expected, you’re a huge bundle of nerves! No one wants to be a nervous wreck on their big day, but it almost seems inevitable, doesn’t it? Thankfully there are a number of ways one can overcome those wedding bell jitters and go on to have a smooth and joyous celebration without a visit from Prince Valium. So sit back, take a deep breath, and read on!
Breathe Easy, Lemon Squeezy: Speaking of breathing, it’s been shown that when we get tense or nervous, we tend to either hold our breath or have a tendency to breathe short shallow breaths. Neither one is good for your sense of calm, so take a moment when things get tough to take a few long, deep breaths, and let them out nice and slow. It’ll set things back on track again.
Talk it Out: Breath isn’t the only thing we hold when we’re nervous about a big event, we also have a tendency to bottle up our anxieties and let them fester inside our sub-conscious. When you start getting wired up talk to your bridesmaid (or your best man) and let them know what you’re thinking. Chances are you’ll open your mouth and find out there’s a lot more in there than you thought.
Accent the Positive, Eliminate the negative: We all have those people in our lives who love to nay-say everything, not the least of which tends to be our future in-laws. While this can be a delicate dance for a happy wedding day, remember that it’s YOUR wedding day. Distance yourself from those who can’t focus on the positive and deal with fallbacks constructively.
Delegate, Delegate, DELEGATE: This is not a one-man (or woman) show, you aren’t responsible to organise everything and keep it all flowing. Your friends and relatives are in this with you, and you should let (and trust, remember that anxiety issue) them to take over certain aspects of the preparations and see them through to completion. Many hands make light work.
Practice Makes Perfect: Mental exercises to walk yourself through the events of the day can make a huge difference. Go through the event, step by step, in your mind to make sure you’ve thought of everything. If you focus on the positive things, this should be a fun and relaxing experience and help you identify any predictable pitfalls before they happen.
Just follow these five easy steps, and you’ll find yourself having a fun and relaxing wedding with the focus where it should be, the joyous celebration of the beginning of your lives together.